Many men that have tried to win back an ex-girlfriend have found it much harder than they expected, so hard in fact that it would often have been far easier to just find a new girlfriend.
However, there are times when no other girl can completely replace the ex and so you have to try and win that ex back.
Your first thought may be to beg her to come back to you but for most of those that have tried that approach, it has proven to be fruitless as, seeing a man beg makes a girl lose respect for that man and that loss of respect is not good to start a renewed relationship on.
You next thought may be to threaten to do something to yourself if she doesn’t return as you cannot live without her.
Although this approach may have worked in a couple of instances, it only worked because the girl was afraid of what you may do and that again, is not a basis to start a new relationship on.
Finally you may decide to remind the girl of some of the past happy experiences you have shared but studies have shown that this too does not work as you would have expected it to.
Apparently, not only does bringing up the past remind the girl of the good times you had but it also reminds her of the reasons why the relationship did not work the first time and places doubt in her mind that it can be better a second time around.
In deciding to win back an ex, you must have already decided that it is worth doing and will have tried to establish the reason why it did not work the first time.
If it is you that had to change in some way then you will have to show her, not just tell her, that you can and have changed in some way and that you are prepared to change some more if it means maintaining the relationship.
Many times the reason for a split is that the girl does not find the man to be taking the relationship serious enough but there are also instances where the girl thinks that the man is trying too hard and so be sure you know which of these problems you have and be ready to change.
When trying to convince to come back, you should talk of the future and what you can achieve together instead of dwelling on the past where there obviously had been mistakes made.
If you think it is more romance she wants, consider suggesting a weekend escape to romantic countryside retreat or to the sea where you can walk alone on a beach under the stars. You can of course start though with a nice romantic candlelit dinner and progress from there.
This could be especially effective if it something that you would not have thought to do before, as it shows her you can change and are prepared to.